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Thursday, September 23, 2010

The Tragedy of Grayson: Portrait of a Crucial Juncture in Evolution

In Ohio, a battle wages between the natural father, and the adoptive parents of a 3 year-old boy.   According to the media, the natural father has been fighting for custody of the child, since his birth.   The adoptive parents refuse to give the child up.  They were present at his birth, and have had him ever since.  My heart goes out to all involved.  There is no right answer to this.  There's something very unholy about taking a child from his biological parent that defies all nature.   

There is also something unholy about taking a child from the home he's known, and giving him to a stranger.  Although, in terms of genome and epigenetic considerations the father could never be a stranger.  Metaphorically speaking, human biology   trumps sociology, but sociology makes the bid and plays the hand--its a lose/lose situation.   As a brain scientist, I would say the smart money is on this kid growing up to have a troubled life, riddled with off-centered behavior and suffering.  As a sidebar note--ABC, and the media should be ashamed of itself for retrying this case in the public forum.  It is child abuse.  Grayson's  neuroplasticity (brain wiring) will reap the havoc of this.   

Lets look at the bigger picture here.   Immediately, this problem is a result of the lack of rights that men have in terms of pregnancy and birth.  The fact is women can decide to terminate a pregnancy without the father's approval, or decide to carry it to term and force the man to support the child, again, without the father's approval.  The Ohio adoption laws don't require the adoption agency to supply information about the biological father to the adoptive parents--curious--but not surprising.  

In custody battles women stand a much greater chance of getting custody of the children, although they stand a significantly lesser chance of becoming gainfully employed and being able to support the child. 

What is wrong us?  What drug are we on?   The reason that men have no rights with children is because of the subjugation of women.   We batter women, and in turn we give them primary control of the children.  If the hand that rocks the cradle is shaking and frightened, how evenly will the cradle rock?  And the child?  How steady can its perception of the world be?     

Humans have reached a crucial juncture in evolution.  We no longer need to overlap biologic reproductive function with sexueroticism for the species to survive.   Doing that, when they should not have been is precisely why this child was born into this tragic circumstance.   When are we going to start focusing on the real issue?   Abortion, Adoption, Birth Control, and Gay marriage are not the issue.   Devolution is the issue.   Having sex and not trying to make a baby is dysfunctional. Genitals are designed for two things: urinating and breeding.  I don't care what anybody says.  Sex is for making babies.  If you're not trying to make babies or urinating you're using your genitals for something nature did not design them to do.  

But that's ridiculous.  Personally, I've been having sex since I was 4 years old,  and not once was I ever trying to make a baby.   If I'm not supposed to overlap biologic reproductive function with sexueroticism, then how do I get my rocks off?  More importantly, how am I supposed to express intimate love?  Trust me, I do not know.      If I did, I'd be doing it, so to speak.   But that's what we need to be figuring out.  We need to get to the root of the problem, and stop attacking the twigs and leaves. Its all wrong, abortion, birth control, homosexuality, heterosexuality for any purpose other than the expressed intent to breed is wrong.  Its all wrong, and we all have  been doing one or more of them for a long time.  Arguing over whose less wrong, and more right is ludicrous.   We're all committing crimes against nature if you want to be scientific about it.  So the pots need to stop calling the kettles black, and figure out how to turn off the stove before the place burns down.       


 

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